What do you do when your relationship is on the rocks?

As a spouse, do you quickly pack your things and leave your partner? Or being tired of all the drama in your life, you just leave things as it is?

Thank God there is hope for a strained relationship to go from struggling to thriving! Yes! There’s always a solution to our problems, but first, we have to be willing to do our part to get the best out of our relationship. 

Each couple experiences good times and bad times. Sometimes, when the challenges are overwhelming, you can’t help but entertain negative emotions and destructive thoughts and ask, “Is there still hope for things to get better?” or “Can the damage still be repaired?” 

A strained relationship can be caused by a lot of factors. Some of them could be because of money issues, communication barriers, unforgiveness, personality differences, and many more. These factors are very common but if we don’t act on them immediately, things can become even harder. The more we prolong these issues, the more the relationship can become sour. So how can we address such problems?

Here are 4 ways we can follow to fix our strained relationship.

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Learn the Habit of Forgiveness

Forgiveness. Why is such a word so difficult to apply in our relationship? We have to remember that forgiveness is a choice. There’s no perfect relationship and no perfect couple.

One way or another, your spouse will hurt you with his actions and words. It may be intentional or not, but forgiveness should be part of our first response. The sad reality is, that it’s really hard to forgive especially if the person caused us too much pain. We can only have the strength to forgive when we truly experience God’s love in our lives. Without true love, there’s no forgiveness. 

Have Open Communication

In relationship coaching, we always hear the importance of communication, but this time, I want to emphasize the need for “open communication.” Open communication is not simply sharing your everyday activities or even the latest trends on social media. It is an honest and open conversation where you let someone see what is deep in your heart. In other words, we have a heart-to-heart talk with our partner.

This is something that I enjoy. However, it can also be a time that may be disappointing. As you open up your heart to each other, you get to share the things you like and the things you hate. This includes your past actions that have hurt the other. Thus, you come to realize that there were things you’ve done that have affected your partner negatively. On the plus side, knowing all of this vital information can help you address the issues in your relationship and find the best solutions to work on your circumstances.

Open communication is essential to having a healthy and happy partnership. To effectively apply it in your relationship, you must listen more and talk less. 

Apply Self-less Love

Being selfless means being more concerned with the needs of others before your own. Selfless love is very essential for a relationship to thrive and flourish because it shows how much you value your spouse. You serve and you give without expecting anything in return.

If your partner needs some help, you serve out of love. If they are asking something from you, you give without demanding something in return. Hence, this is an effective way to overcome the challenges in a strained relationship, and this defines what true love is. 

Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

John 15:13 NIV

Surrender it to God

After you have done everything to make things work again between you and your mate, you have to leave the rest in God’s hands.

Even if you have exhausted all means to make your relationship fruitful and enjoyable once more, there are still things that can be out of your control. This is where you have to leave room for God to display His power and miracles as you depend on Him throughout your battle.

Without a doubt, God sees all your efforts and He will not let your work be in vain. Coming to God in prayer He feels your pain, and He will never fail those who trust in Him. 

No one who trusts in you will ever be disgraced, but disgrace comes to those who try to deceive others.

Psalm25:3 NLT
Whatever life throws at us, we can always depend on God for strength to stay committed and faithful in our relationship. Take heart for God is always with us!  #relationships #chrisianmarriage Click To Tweet

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Sheena Radam is a work-in-progress wife, a work-at-home and homeschooling mom, and a Christian writer who owns the faith blog The Heart That Is Good. She writes to encourage and empower wives, moms, and followers of Christ to live a life with a teachable heart – rooted in God’s word, fruitful, and pleasing to the Lord.

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