What Should You Do When Your Husband Turns Away From God?
One of the most difficult things that can happen in a Christian marriage is your spouse turning away from God.
On your wedding day, you stood before God as two believers and promised to love each other for the rest of your days. Way back when you were sure there was nothing the two of you couldn’t get through, but this? You never saw this coming!
What do you do when your husband tells you he no longer believes in God?
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Pray Like His Life Depends On It
Several years ago I found myself in this position, and it was heartbreaking. I couldn’t believe that the man I married, was saying he was turning his back on God. He knew how important my faith was to me, and I thought it was important to him too.
The first thing I did when my husband turned away from God was pray.
I kept thinking if I’m hurt about his decision, then God must be too. Praying, and talking to God about it seemed like an obvious first step.
Why Should You Pray For a Husband Who Is Turning Away From Their Faith?
Prayer is a powerful tool that God gave us, that should be used often. In God’s word He tells us many times about how prayer can change things, so praying for a lost loved one is important.
Praying that God will work in the heart of your husband is essential.
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1 Thessalonians 5:17 says to “pray without ceasing” (ESV) and I believe that to be true especially when praying for someone who has turned away from God.
Praying without ceasing is much more than whispering a prayer in church on Sunday. It means spending time daily in devotions with God and taking any and every opportunity to pray for your spouse.
Pray quietly while you are sitting in a waiting room. Fill a journal with prayers. Cry out to God while you are stuck in traffic. Have your Pastor or trusted brothers and sisters in Christ pray with you.
It doesn’t matter how or when, just be fervent in your prayers!
Let Your Actions Speak Louder Than Your Words
You can explain to your husband that you are saddened by his decision to turn from God. That being said, be sure that you are speaking in love and not anger. No one likes being nagged or forced to do something they don’t want to do.
Having your husband next to you in church might be important, but if he’s only there to make you happy then it’s meaningless. He needs to be acting like a Christian because he is a believer, not because he knows how to act like one. It’s important to remember that.
How Do You Let Your Actions Speak?
Notice the verse does not tell wives to give up on their husbands. Does it say to continually remind your husband what he has done wrong? No, it says quite the opposite.
It can be challenging to stay committed when a husband has turned away from God, but we are called to. Of course, there are situations where this may not be safe, but for the most part, Christian wives should try to continue to love and respect their husbands. In doing this you will be showing your husband your commitment to him and Christ.
Why Should You Let Your Actions Do The Speaking?
Using your actions more than your words will speak volumes to your husband. It may be difficult to keep quiet about something that hurts you so much, but your example can be a real witness to your husband.
Letting your actions speak to him doesn’t mean you never invite your husband to church with you or ask him if he’d like to pray with you. He must know these are things you desire, but also that he comes to do these things on his own, and he isn’t forced into it.
Your behavior may even remind your husband that God doesn’t turn His back on us even when we turn our back on God.
When my husband told me he no longer wanted to be a Christian, a dear friend of mine told me something that I thought of often during that season of my life.
She said, “If your husband was ever truly a Child of God, which I believe he was, he will not lose his salvation, and your prayers and example will help to bring him back around in time.”
Everyone’s story is different, but in my situation, she was right. It took several years and countless prayers but my husband did come back to Christ.
The day that my husband was baptized, I asked him why he wanted to live as a Christian once again.
He told me several things happened in his life that were a wake-up call to him and helped to bring him back. Among the things he told me, were the love and devotion I showed to him during his time of wandering.
If you have a spouse who has turned away from God don’t lose heart. It’s not easy to stand by them, but God is working in ways you cannot even imagine. Let your actions be one of them.
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