How to Pray for An Adulterous Husband
Finding out your husband is caught up in an affair is one of the most difficult things that can happen in a relationship. I know, because unfortunately, I have been there.
However, as Christians, we have a powerful tool to fight for our marriages, prayer! My marriage would not have been saved without it!
Here are three ways to pray for a lying, cheating husband.
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Pray For Clarity For The Adulterous Husband
Praying for clarity for a husband who is having an affair is important. They need a wake-up call to see the truth of what they are doing and a reminder of why it’s wrong. Praying for clarity is an important prayer to say for a deceitful husband.
Many times when someone becomes involved in an affair they imagine that things in their new relationship are far better than their relationship with their spouse ever was. However, oftentimes that is not the truth.
In reality, many times their new relationship only seems better, because it’s new! Financial hardships, issues with kids, and other responsibilities are left at home when a man is with his other woman. Without all these distractions, it’s easy to feel like things are superior, but that feeling is almost always short-lived.
Praying for an adulterous husband to see the truth of the situation is one way to help him gain clarity about what he is doing.
The Result of His Actions
The truth is that affairs ruin many relationships.
An unfaithful husband might try to convince himself that his actions only affect the two of you, but many others will be hurt as a result of his choices.
Our kids, close friends, and extended family all felt the effects of what was going on between my husband and me when we were in that season. A man may deceive himself into thinking that his affair isn’t a big deal, but anyone close to him will agree, that it is a difficult situation all around.
Pray that any blinders he has on will be removed and that the cheating husband will be able to truly see what he is doing, and who he is hurting as a result.
Pray for the Heart of an Adulterous Husband
Praying for the heart of a man who is involved in an affair is crucial so that you may win back the cheating husband and he may be turned unto the Lord.
Once the newness and excitement wear off, an affair can become difficult and even draining.
Juggling both his family and another woman can become a challenge. Instead of having a “wonderful relationship” with someone else like he imagined a cheating man may realize that he has put himself in between a rock and a hard place.
Even though it’s difficult, it’s very common for men to try to stay in both relationships.
When my husband was in that place, I used to spend a lot of time saying powerful prayers against the other woman. I would pray that things between him and her would fall apart. That she would lose interest, that he would see the pain of our family, or that he would simply fall back in love with me again! These were all prayers against adultery that I prayed often during that time in our marriage.
Overall, I prayed that there would be some kind of end in sight and that he would break free of this other woman once and for all!
Change of Heart
When my husband and I were dealing with his infidelity, the number one prayer that I prayed was that God would “bind” my husband’s “wandering heart” to Him.
During that time in our marriage, I not only lost my husband, but he claimed to have lost his faith.
Watching him wander so far from the Lord was one hundred times harder than seeing him wander from me, so praying for him to turn his heart back to the Lord was very important to me.
Whether your husband is a committed Christian (yes, it happens even to Christians) a wandering Christian like mine was, or an unbeliever, praying for God to change his heart is a good place to start when you consider how to pray against adultery.
Pray to Overcome the Unfaithfulness of Your Spouse
The good news is repairing your relationship after infidelity is possible, but it will take work and lots of prayer.
Throughout the struggles and separation that occurred in my marriage, I prayed heavily for restoration between my husband and me. I can say with all confidence that the healing that happened in my marriage was nothing but a miracle as a result of the numerous prayers that were said to fight adultery.
In the end, my husband not only recommitted his heart to me but also recommitted his life to the Lord.
It can be hard to know how to pray for a deceitful husband, but God has given Christians the wonderful gift of prayer. We can bring the pain and problems we are facing in our marriages directly to the one who created us, and marriage.
If you find yourself in the heartbreaking place of being a wife whose husband is involved in an affair I hope you will rely on the Lord, and ask Him to help you through this hardship. He can do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine (Eph. 3:20) cling to that hope, and put your trust in the Lord!
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