Why You Need to Know Your Love Language

Why You Need to Know Your Love Language

Are you familiar with the five love languages? Do you know your love language?

Each “love language” represents a different way that a person feels loved.

Most people tend to show love to others by doing the same things that make them feel loved. However, the way that you feel loved, might not be the same way that your partner does. This can create difficulties in your relationship. Click To Tweet

That is why you need to know your love language, but also identify the language of your spouse.

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What are the Five Love Languages?

1. Words of Affirmation– If this is your language, you probably like receiving compliments. Verbal encouragement is important to you, and you are most likely a good communicator.

2. Quality Time– People who feel love this way will want to spend plenty of time with their partners. For this person, it won’t be too important what you are doing together, it’s more important that their spouse is making time to be with them.

3. Receiving Gifts– Someone with this love language will really appreciate it when their partner goes the extra mile with gift-giving. It’s not that they are greedy, it’s more about their spouse putting thought into what they give to them, to show them how special they are.

4. Acts of Service– A person who has this as their language will have the heart of a servant. They will show you their feelings more than tell you them. This person is usually a hard worker.

5. Physical Touch– When this is your love language, you feel most loved when your spouse is affectionate. You might enjoy holding hands or having your partner put their arm around you.

Have you identified your love language? What about your partners?

Why Is It Helpful To Know the Love Languages Of You and Your Spouse?

It’s important to know how both you and your spouse feel and show love. When you understand your love languages, you can better understand your spouse.

1. Knowing Your Love Language Helps You Learn About Yourself

I’m a writer, so using words to express my feelings comes really naturally to me. That being said, it came as no surprise to me when I identified “words of affirmation” as my “love language”.

Knowing and understanding my love language, made me realize why I longed for my husband to tell me how he felt about me. It also helped me recognize that there were times that I would compliment my husband, simply because I wanted a compliment back.

2. Knowing Your Partner’s Love Language Helps You Learn About Them

It wasn’t until I started looking into “love languages” that I realized my husband and I have two very different ways of communicating.

When I figured out that my husband shows his love, through “acts of service” it made a huge difference in our marriage.

While I was waiting for my husband to tell me how he felt, he was desperately trying to show me his love. He’s always been good about helping me around the house, but for years I had no idea that was his way of saying, “I love you!”

Likewise, I didn’t know that me making my husband a special breakfast or even taking out the garbage, was saying more to him about my love than my words were!

Final Thoughts

Do you ever feel like your spouse doesn’t make you feel loved or doesn’t understand you? Perhaps you just need to learn more about what your love languages are!

Figuring out how you and your partner communicate love can be a useful tool in your marriage.

It’s helped me to realize that I could talk non-stop about how great my husband is, but when I show him what he means to me, that’s when he actually hears me.

How will it help improve your marriage?